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Ah, so you need to "bind together" to be able to make decisions these days? How is this going to go down with your kids? At first, you say no? If they ask en
by lynx23 3y ago
Ah, so you need to "bind together" to be able to make decisions these days? How is this going to go down with your kids? At first, you say no? If they ask enough, you explain "you know, there is this church of parents which has decided that no kid is supposed to get a smartphone that early. Sorry kids, we can not do anything about it, it is the curch of parents decision"
OK, so you can only hope your kid is rather dull. Because if they are bright, they will realize that you are pretty dull. And they will remember. I still remember when I realized that living with my mother alone is going to be hell, because I would have to deal with all her neuroticism without anyone stepping up to help. Then the plan forms: "I am going to leave as early as possible, these guys suck"
- tempestn 3y agoThe point is that it would suck to be the one kid in grade 6 or 7 that doesn't have a phone. If parents collaborate on waiting until a healthy age - ideally if it becomes a societal norm - then kids don't need to feel left out.
- lynx23 3y agoI understand the urge to create pseudo-laws, and outlaw the thing you dont like just a little bit, on your own, as a group. I am just not a fan of Prohibition Culture. It never really did anything good except feeding the underground.
- elzbardico 3y agoPretty soon, we, responsible parents who actually set up parental controls correctly, pay attention to what our kids are doing and have actual, consistent, and transparent limits will be shamed for giving our kids access to tech by a bunch of neo-hippie Luddite Karens.
- lynx23 3y agoThats one likely outcome, yes.
- MattGaiser 3y agoThe choices which make the most sense depend on the choices of those around you. For example, I always get the laptop all my colleagues use at work because then troubleshooting development problems is easier. If you are the sole kid without a smartphone or without social media in a class, it is very easy to get excluded, as plenty of things will be organized on social media. I don't know how one could have functioned at university without Facebook when I attended, as it was how everything from sharing study materials to clubs to finding rentals to even conference applications was organized. A school with a large proportion of kids without smartphones is going to organize social communication differently. Event notifications will be organized differently. Teachers won't expect that the kids will download particular learning apps to access results.
- lynx23 3y agoAh, sure, and teachers will accept this and happily go back to the "stoneage" just because some parents-sekt has decided no smart phones anymore? You can not outlaw technology on a social level. Many control freaks would love to, but that doesnt change reality at slightest.
- kelipso 3y ago> You can not outlaw technology on a social level. You sure can. You can ban pretty much anything, you know, if you get enough people to agree. Sure, there will be some outlaws, but who cares, ostracize them, fine them, exile them, send them to jail. Really, the lesson learnt from prohibition should be that the PR campaign wasn't good enough.
- MichaelRo 3y ago[flagged]