First, I see using the word "chicks" as insanely offensive. That's what probably would get you marked as obnoxious, not the looks. The second thing, getting ma

First, I see using the word "chicks" as insanely offensive. That's what probably would get you marked as obnoxious, not the looks. The second thing, getting marked as obnoxious means you're routinely messaging the wrong people. The only change I'd consider to combat this is the site warning you, that the kind of people you're messaging are obviously not that into it, along with any hints it could mine from the data. Also, I consider your fear misguided. Trust me, the most common reasons for rejection of men by women on dating sites are not looks. The other way around, though...