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> Online dating is a misnomer, it's basically just online meeting of people. Bingo. Now, here's an interesting question. If you're a profit seeking entity that
by maratd 15y ago
> Online dating is a misnomer, it's basically just online meeting of people.
Bingo. Now, here's an interesting question. If you're a profit seeking entity that charges monthly rates for introducing people and you want to increase your take, how do you do it?
You need to keep them wanting to meet more people. As in, you do not want them to find somebody they really like or they'll no longer want to meet other people.
In other words, there is a huge profit motive for you to keep the experience mediocre. Not terrible enough for you to leave, but also not great enough for you to leave with someone you like. There is a huge motive for mediocrity.
BTW I met my wife who is sitting next to me, pregnant with our first kid, on an online dating site. It took me two years and about a hundred first dates. That's after using every filtering mechanism provided to me by the site. It was an avalanche of mediocrity. Good enough to keep you going, but bad enough to keep going.
- sliverstorm 15y agoSheesh, that's a first date every weekend for two years. Sounds like a side job more than anything else!
- mahyarm 15y agoThe idea is to try to schedule a date nearly every night, except the special D&D night or whatever special event. Women flake enough that you'll have nights to yourself, and you'll appreciate it!
- abalashov 15y agoBingo. A good friend of mine told me women are flaky and need to be oversubscribed at least a 10:1 contention ratio. I always dismissed it as player/pick up artist posturing, but I'm beginning to see that he has a point.
- groby_b 15y agoYou might have a problem finding a woman if your attitude is "women are flaky". This is not to say no, we're never flaky. Some are. Some aren't. But if you pre-judge the people you date before you even meet them, they tend to notice. And dismiss you in return. It's pretty easy to tell if you're honestly interested or just playing the numbers. (Unless you want a shallow ditz. Then by all means, pre-judge ;)
- mahyarm 15y agoNot really. Men who don't have a hard time acknowledge that fact too. When we say flaky, we also mean girls who reschedule for later because something comes up, emergencies, days or hours before the date. It's not just being stood up and taking days to respond to your texts. It's as real as rush hour traffic and rainy days, and eventually you learn to just deal with the contingency and not take it personally. You don't judge the person specifically, you just know it's possible. You plan dates at places where you'll still have fun by yourself and so on.