I try to stay as respectful to the identity people choose for themselves and less of what the identities people impose upon others. While I generally will refe

I try to stay as respectful to the identity people choose for themselves and less of what the identities people impose upon others. While I generally will refer to this individual as the late Dani Bunten, I 1000% respect the identity that both Dani Bunten gave herself as well as her surviving children. Because what we think about D. Bunten is paltry compared to the importance of a surviving child. And Melanie's perspective is absolutely in line with Dani Bunten's chosen identity. For every conversation about this subject concerning Dani Bunten, someone absolutely needs to provide this link to her archived website discussing this matter: https://web.archive.org/web/20110912094412/http://www.anticlockwise.com/dani/personal/changes/index.html https://web.archive.org/web/20110912094412/http://www.anticl... To Dani Bunten, Dan Bunten (him) created M.U.L.E.. It's not wrong or disrespectful to follow one's chosen identity. But again, in most contexts (not speaking with Melanie), I refer to this individual as Dani Bunten because I also respect trans people (in general).