"S does what she wants and J deals with the consequences" is one of my common sayings - and you're right, me saying that makes no sense to her. We have differi

"S does what she wants and J deals with the consequences" is one of my common sayings - and you're right, me saying that makes no sense to her. We have differing levels of desire to do things with other people. When we're in a group setting, she's an extrovert - but it drains her. At home she's always been happy with a book, puzzle, or now, doing sudoku or a paint-by-number app on her phone. I find the paint by number app maddening - it'll take a picture of a parrot and subdivide it into thousands of squares. You pick a shade of green, track down and touch all the squares that are that color - and then pick another color - track down and touch all those squares.... She's done hundreds of these and the end result is just a picture on her phone. I suspect autism, but she's super verbal and outgoing which I think masks it.