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> I think joining an organization is your best bet. Getting involved in something and becoming an active member in it. You need something that forms a common bo

> I think joining an organization is your best bet. Getting involved in something and becoming an active member in it. You need something that forms a common bond with other people looking for that sort of thing. This is a great way to make friends (well, sometimes. Not always) but I think most of them are going to be "type 2" friends in your schema. You're probably right, not that many people are looking for new, deep friendships in adulthood if they're not transplants. But... that kind of seems like a flaw in TFA's premise as well. You can't just unilaterally decide you're going to orient your life around your friends if your friends aren't on the same page. To be fair I don't think I was "unsuccessful" at making friends when I was younger but for various reasons I didn't end up being able to stay in the same place as them and most friendships kind of wither if it's a whole trip that has to be planned to see someone.

nemo44x 3y ago
> You can't just unilaterally decide you're going to orient your life around your friends if your friends aren't on the same page. And that's the rub. It's really difficult to find "bro's for life" that plan on being that way for most people, for a variety of reasons, will move out of that phase. I believe it's because we hang with a pack when we are in our mate selection phase of life and after that occurs, people have different ambitions for their life. Hangin with friends all the time is generally very different at that point. > To be fair I don't think I was "unsuccessful" at making friends when I was younger Indeed, there's many reasons someone may not form lasting bonds with friends in their youth and it's not necessarily because they were not good at it.