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It sounds like you're more of a sex pest that places far too much significance on the act rather than the relationship before it.

thomastjeffery 3y ago
Because I have a different perspective than you, I am a pest. This is precisely the issue at hand. I'm not pestering you for sex; in fact I am not pestering anyone at all! Yet here you are pestering me for expressing an interest in it. -- Am I a pest for leaving the Mormon Church? Am I a pest for drinking alcohol at home? Whatever happened to the religious freedom y'all keep telling me about? Can I have some?
- valianteffort 3y ago
  > Am I a pest for leaving the Mormon Church No but there does seem to be a strong correlation between people who were raised in strict religious households and a strong predilection towards sex. I kind of already assumed that you were ex-religious before you said so. You are free to believe and do whatever you like, but don't presume that everyone else is a prude because they don't look at sex the way you do. Or that your perspective should be the norm. People overwhelmingly choose and hope for monogomy despite society largely accepting casual sexual encounters as "normal". There's no telling the extent of the damage that has done to people's ability to pair bond successfully and develop interpersonal relationships.
  - thomastjeffery 3y ago
    > You are free to believe and do whatever you like, but don't presume that everyone else is a prude because they don't look at sex the way you do. I won't. I'll assume they are a prude when they call me a "sex pest". > Or that your perspective should be the norm. I just have to accept the inverse. Got it. -- > People overwhelmingly choose and hope for monogomy despite society largely accepting casual sexual encounters as "normal". I would like to live in that society please. Oh right, you want to vilify it because casual sex offends you; and you are not alone, which is precisely the source of my troubles. I have plenty of deep and fulfilling interpersonal relationships. I'm quite good at that, as it happens. -- What the fuck do you want from me? Do you want me to pretend I actually crave committed monogamy? Wouldn't that make me the actual pest? That doesn't sound any different from asking my trans friends to pretend they are cis or my gay friends pretend they are hetero. I would much rather be honest. Unfortunately, this social situation you are holding over my head is making it a lot easier to just stay silent. Thanks for that.

thomastjeffery 3y ago

Because I have a different perspective than you, I am a pest. This is precisely the issue at hand. I'm not pestering you for sex; in fact I am not pestering anyone at all! Yet here you are pestering me for expressing an interest in it. -- Am I a pest for leaving the Mormon Church? Am I a pest for drinking alcohol at home? Whatever happened to the religious freedom y'all keep telling me about? Can I have some?

valianteffort 3y ago
> Am I a pest for leaving the Mormon Church No but there does seem to be a strong correlation between people who were raised in strict religious households and a strong predilection towards sex. I kind of already assumed that you were ex-religious before you said so. You are free to believe and do whatever you like, but don't presume that everyone else is a prude because they don't look at sex the way you do. Or that your perspective should be the norm. People overwhelmingly choose and hope for monogomy despite society largely accepting casual sexual encounters as "normal". There's no telling the extent of the damage that has done to people's ability to pair bond successfully and develop interpersonal relationships.
- thomastjeffery 3y ago
  > You are free to believe and do whatever you like, but don't presume that everyone else is a prude because they don't look at sex the way you do. I won't. I'll assume they are a prude when they call me a "sex pest". > Or that your perspective should be the norm. I just have to accept the inverse. Got it. -- > People overwhelmingly choose and hope for monogomy despite society largely accepting casual sexual encounters as "normal". I would like to live in that society please. Oh right, you want to vilify it because casual sex offends you; and you are not alone, which is precisely the source of my troubles. I have plenty of deep and fulfilling interpersonal relationships. I'm quite good at that, as it happens. -- What the fuck do you want from me? Do you want me to pretend I actually crave committed monogamy? Wouldn't that make me the actual pest? That doesn't sound any different from asking my trans friends to pretend they are cis or my gay friends pretend they are hetero. I would much rather be honest. Unfortunately, this social situation you are holding over my head is making it a lot easier to just stay silent. Thanks for that.