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> We don't want women to be stay-at-home mothers for good reasons, but society as it is hasn't caught up with that not all women—my wife, for example—agree wit
by adamrezich 3y ago
> We don't want women to be stay-at-home mothers for good reasons, but society as it is hasn't caught up with that
not all women—my wife, for example—agree with this sentiment.
we bought a house and got married, but my income alone is not enough to pay our mortgage, bills, food, etc.
we want to have children as soon as possible, but unfortunately we don't know when that will be, purely due to financial constraints.
in the meantime, my wife must work to supplement our income to keep us afloat, and to accumulate some savings for having children later on.
I'm a full-time-employed programmer for our local school district. in an ideal world, my salary alone would be enough to support raising a family. but, today, this is not the case.
fortunately, we may have a solution that could work for us, as it's presently working for a close friend: have the wife run a small, in-home daycare for a few other children, in addition to taking care of our own.
it's a less-than-ideal solution—we'd love to have the mother of our children spend her full time and attention on just our own kids—but that's not really feasible in today's society, unless you are lucky to have generational wealth or some such.
and, of course, this is all from the perspective of someone who doesn't have any sort of temporal limit on my ability to procreate—I can only try my best to understand how my wife feels, living through her prime fertility years anxiously waiting for the Right Time To Birth Children, purely based on financial constraints.
but anyway, believe it or not, there are women out there who would love to do nothing else but raise children and take care of the family home, while the husband provides income through work. it's really unfortunate that we've chosen, as a society, to sideline the desires that these women have for their lives, which were the unquestioned societal norm only a few short generations ago.