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I want to maintain these friendships and relationships but after a point, I’m tired of being the first one to reach out all the time, the one word replies, and
by ri45 3y ago
I want to maintain these friendships and relationships but after a point, I’m tired of being the first one to reach out all the time, the one word replies, and all the anxiety surrounding their very late replies. There is no such thing as busy, the average American checks their phone 96 times a day. If they want you, they’ll make time for you. It’s heartbreaking when it goes to this from a point where we’d talk for hours. It’s clear they no longer value the friendship and have moved on. Relationships need active effort from both sides to maintain, it’s over the moment one loses interest in maintaining it
- emodendroket 3y agoI think sometimes you get into a vicious cycle where it’s been a while and then it feels like you’re imposing to reach out or answer a message you let sit too long.
- nemo44x 3y agoRemember, you don't know what they're going through. Try calling at a time of day that makes sense. It's direct and synchronous. Ask them how they are and what's new in their life. Try and find time to meetup. Life gets really busy for people and they might see the commitment it takes as something they just don't have time for right now. Or maybe you've grown apart. You can always ask them if everything is alright between you both.
- tasuki 3y agoI'm often very late to reply, but somehow my friends put up with that. Late thirties, many friends for decades. Also I find it easy and fun to restart friendships after years of no contact. Perhaps my social circle is weird...