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Each to their own and more power to these people, though not sure why any potential husband would accept a romantic interest saying: “I need you to know that s

Each to their own and more power to these people, though not sure why any potential husband would accept a romantic interest saying: “I need you to know that she’s not going anywhere. She is my No. 1.” For me that is a non starter. I would wish her well and move on. My wife is the most important person to me and the only one I can generally be myself around. Getting married should be a lifelong bond and commitment (or at least that should be the intent, obviously things change). While I almost never ask for help, I know that if I ever needed it she would be there at the drop of a hat. I am relatively emotionally numb but I am genuinely happy when she is happy. A day where she smiles is a good day. A long term marriage is also a place to be sexually (monogamously, at least for us) open in a way that most relationships are not. You learn what the other likes. Friends can come and go but I anchor my world around my wife and kids. The only thing that would break it is infidelity. I don't have any close friends, but honestly I dont miss having them either. I'm pretty comfortable on my own and as long as I can spend time with my wife and kids at the end of the day I am perfectly content.

standardUser 3y ago
I keep reading versions of "friends can come and go", which makes it clear that my experienced with friendship is not universal. I have many friendships that are far longer-lived than my longest relationships and have outlasted several multi-year relationships. Every friend I have consoled during a major break-up - and there have been many - was relying on a friendship that predated and outlasted their serious romantic relationship. Yes, some romantic relationships can go on indefinitely, but that is not a universal experience. Then again, lifelong friendships are not universal either.
- emodendroket 3y ago
  My experience has been every time I’ve moved I’ve mostly lost touch with friends and when I see them again we don’t have all that much to talk about. I guess a lot of people just don’t leave their hometowns so that isn’t a consideration in the first place.
- wonderwonder 3y ago
  Very true, each relationship is different. Been with my wife since I was 20 and mid 40's now. So far so good :) I completely get where you are coming from though. I think for me once I started dating my now wife, all other relationships became less important and drifted away. Not a positive thing, just the reality of what happened. Wouldn't change it for the world though.

standardUser 3y ago

I keep reading versions of "friends can come and go", which makes it clear that my experienced with friendship is not universal. I have many friendships that are far longer-lived than my longest relationships and have outlasted several multi-year relationships. Every friend I have consoled during a major break-up - and there have been many - was relying on a friendship that predated and outlasted their serious romantic relationship. Yes, some romantic relationships can go on indefinitely, but that is not a universal experience. Then again, lifelong friendships are not universal either.

emodendroket 3y ago
My experience has been every time I’ve moved I’ve mostly lost touch with friends and when I see them again we don’t have all that much to talk about. I guess a lot of people just don’t leave their hometowns so that isn’t a consideration in the first place.
wonderwonder 3y ago
Very true, each relationship is different. Been with my wife since I was 20 and mid 40's now. So far so good :) I completely get where you are coming from though. I think for me once I started dating my now wife, all other relationships became less important and drifted away. Not a positive thing, just the reality of what happened. Wouldn't change it for the world though.