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The phenomenon you describe has gone down two different paths for two different sets of people. In my world, most straight men I bother to associate with are no
by standardUser 3y ago
The phenomenon you describe has gone down two different paths for two different sets of people. In my world, most straight men I bother to associate with are not afraid of showing emotion or admitting to non-masculine traits/experiences or being called gay. I assumed, hopefully, that this was the path the entire country was going down, in terms of male-male relationships. But it seems that has not been the case, and a different segment - one that I don't interact with much - has doubled-down on defining themselves with traditional masculinity and continue to suffer through the whole universe of insecurities that comes with.
- zerbinxx 3y agoOddly, a lot of “traditional masculinity” actually involves close male friendships. I think the husband/wife as best friends thing is a relatively new development, and the “neo-heteronormativity” of being a “wife guy” or “ride or die girl” is relatively new - see boomer humor that revolves around multiple types of relationship/friendship, wherein a night out with the boys/girls is sacrosanct and the desire to wall off your partners social life to “only people I also want to hang out with” is seen as controlling or gross.