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Anecdote but I have had the same friends since I was 4. Like kindergarten friends. I have new friends as well but my kindergarten friends know me even better th

Anecdote but I have had the same friends since I was 4. Like kindergarten friends. I have new friends as well but my kindergarten friends know me even better than I know myself. It's awesome every time we hang out. We basically laugh at everything. We learned to laugh with each other and literally created each other's sense of humor and social personality. I honestly feel so lucky. One of them moved 6 hours away but we talk and game every week on discord. I'm from small town canada. People here are notoriously less ambitious than Americans or at least than big city Americans. The one college friend of mine who moved to silicon valley I don't get along with anymore. He's just tuned to a higher frequency of activity and we can't share time effectively. It's like the SV lifestyle created ADHD in him. We can never just do nothing. We always have to be discussing something "important" or doing something "cool". Sometimes I like to sit on my deck for an hour and let the thoughts creep by. I used to feel envious of his wealth, power and prestige. But now that I have a wife and child and can see my distant future, I do not envy him.

dangond 3y ago
> It's like the SV lifestyle created ADHD in him. I'm not in Silicon Valley, but I am in tech, and I notice myself slipping towards this as well. More and more, I find myself letting the current hot topic of the day run through my mind non-stop, over and over. I am unable to simply take a break from it all. I no longer have the patience to just sit on a deck for an hour with my own thoughts, I have to be reading news articles or learning a new skill or I feel like I am "wasting" my time. I am envious of you and your kindergarten friends. Most of my high school and college friends have moved away, and I don't reach out to them enough.
- baq 3y ago
  Turns out being bored is a skill that needs to be practiced. It’s kind of like mediation except not cool.
  - nightowl_games 3y ago
    I'm almost forced into it now that I'm a parent cause I simply don't have enough energy to do anything. It was kinda hard at first, but now I'm tuned to actually enjoy purely doing nothing. Like we're talking sit on a lawn chair on the deck for 45 minutes at the end of the day before I go to bed.
    - baq 3y ago
      Have 4 kids. Yes.

dangond 3y ago

> It's like the SV lifestyle created ADHD in him. I'm not in Silicon Valley, but I am in tech, and I notice myself slipping towards this as well. More and more, I find myself letting the current hot topic of the day run through my mind non-stop, over and over. I am unable to simply take a break from it all. I no longer have the patience to just sit on a deck for an hour with my own thoughts, I have to be reading news articles or learning a new skill or I feel like I am "wasting" my time. I am envious of you and your kindergarten friends. Most of my high school and college friends have moved away, and I don't reach out to them enough.

baq 3y ago
Turns out being bored is a skill that needs to be practiced. It’s kind of like mediation except not cool.
- nightowl_games 3y ago
  I'm almost forced into it now that I'm a parent cause I simply don't have enough energy to do anything. It was kinda hard at first, but now I'm tuned to actually enjoy purely doing nothing. Like we're talking sit on a lawn chair on the deck for 45 minutes at the end of the day before I go to bed.
  - baq 3y ago
    Have 4 kids. Yes.