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i'm not saying you will - but you might be surprised about that friendship after you broke up.

hef19898 3y ago
So far I lost more friends in my life than spouses, but I get your point. If it ever comes to that, I at least hope any break will be more or less amicable. No huge interest in finding out so!
- 2-718-281-828 3y ago
  losing friends is in my experience a somewhat dynamic and historically plausible process while break ups turn a switch in a woman's brain. i know this won't fare well with many folks to put it that way - but men don't have that switch. a woman turns from one minute to the other into someone else the moment the relationship is over and the only thing you have left to hope for is that this someone isn't going to be your new archenemy - especially if you have a divorce looking forward to.
  - hef19898 3y ago
    So, you think only women have difficulties with break ups? Men don't? What are we, emotionless rocks or ice cubes?
  - lotsofpulp 3y ago
    How many data points are you using to come to this conclusion about “men” and “women”?
  - hydrok9 3y ago
    Depends how much she misses you.
  - emaro 3y ago
    I had quite the opposite experience. We're still friends since we ended our 6 year relationship. She is still the person I trust the most, and no one knows me as well. It requires a lot of honest communication. If one betrays the other, obviously that doesn't help. Relaitonships are complex and diverse and there are many counter examples to what you describe.
gattilorenz 3y ago
I broke up with women after being together for years, and we're still pretty close friends. We just realized it wasn't working for us but we still found each other's company pleasurable and stimulating, and we knew so much about each other... why would we give all of that up? So, I'm sorry if it went horribly wrong in your case, but even assuming you handled everything perfect (behavior, communication), extrapolating to all women is really not reasonable.

hef19898 3y ago

So far I lost more friends in my life than spouses, but I get your point. If it ever comes to that, I at least hope any break will be more or less amicable. No huge interest in finding out so!

2-718-281-828 3y ago
losing friends is in my experience a somewhat dynamic and historically plausible process while break ups turn a switch in a woman's brain. i know this won't fare well with many folks to put it that way - but men don't have that switch. a woman turns from one minute to the other into someone else the moment the relationship is over and the only thing you have left to hope for is that this someone isn't going to be your new archenemy - especially if you have a divorce looking forward to.
- hef19898 3y ago
  So, you think only women have difficulties with break ups? Men don't? What are we, emotionless rocks or ice cubes?
- lotsofpulp 3y ago
  How many data points are you using to come to this conclusion about “men” and “women”?
- hydrok9 3y ago
  Depends how much she misses you.
- emaro 3y ago
  I had quite the opposite experience. We're still friends since we ended our 6 year relationship. She is still the person I trust the most, and no one knows me as well. It requires a lot of honest communication. If one betrays the other, obviously that doesn't help. Relaitonships are complex and diverse and there are many counter examples to what you describe.

gattilorenz 3y ago

I broke up with women after being together for years, and we're still pretty close friends. We just realized it wasn't working for us but we still found each other's company pleasurable and stimulating, and we knew so much about each other... why would we give all of that up? So, I'm sorry if it went horribly wrong in your case, but even assuming you handled everything perfect (behavior, communication), extrapolating to all women is really not reasonable.