The problem is people don't know if you're asking questions to indicate your disapproval (or to cause people grief) or if you're asking to understand. In other

The problem is people don't know if you're asking questions to indicate your disapproval (or to cause people grief) or if you're asking to understand. In other words bad faith questions vs good faith questions. People get offended when you're asking bad faith questions. And it can be difficult to differentiate the two, especially when people discussing don't know each other. I know someone who is often snippy with me because I ask questions where I legitimately want to understand something, but she assumes I'm asking to indicate she's done something wrong.