My wife uses this approach with our cat and it works. However, when I try it he pays no attention - could be that I've been his main servant for 18+ years so of

My wife uses this approach with our cat and it works. However, when I try it he pays no attention - could be that I've been his main servant for 18+ years so of course I don't see him as a threat or I have glasses any my wife doesn't or sheer feline contrariness ....