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People used to be able to maintain large remote friend circles before the telegram was invented. If they could do it by snail mail, you can do it with a phone a

by HEmanZ 3y ago

People used to be able to maintain large remote friend circles before the telegram was invented. If they could do it by snail mail, you can do it with a phone and no social media.

coldtea 3y ago
Not when all others that you want to reach have switched to social media.
- lynx23 3y ago
  They disconnected their phone number and switched to social media? Or did they discontinue their postal address and switch to social media? I am sort of confused what you are trying to say.
  - coldtea 3y ago
    They're spending their time on social media (instead of meeting friends and going out as much), they preferentially make their arrangements when going on and keeping touch on social media, they will often actively snub or forget people outside social media, and even if you manage to get time with them face to face, they're likely to discuss social media drama or just stare at their social media smartphone screen.
    - lynx23 3y ago
      OK, but given the behaviour you describe, why do you miss them, then? Sounds like these people dont add anything to your life, or at least dont really want to add something, which is also reason enough to not care.
      - coldtea 3y ago
        Because "these people" is most people. So minimizes the chances of finding people to "add something to your life". This is one result... https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-soci... https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu/reports/loneliness-in-america https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu/reports/loneliness-in-america
        lynx23 3y ago
        Where I life: Nobody except journalists actually uses twitter for anything. FB is the social network for people my age, but has lost a lot of traction in the recent years. Most people that still use it share "funny" nonesense, but the amount of genuine personal postings has gone down. Instagram is not my age-group, so I couldn't really say, but at least I have never felt pressure to join. I call most of my friends on the phone, with very little exceptions. To sum it up: If I wouldn't read about the downfall of society because of social media on HN, I probably wouldn't have noticed. Likely a US specific problem, which is fine, after all, you guys pushed most of this social poison, so it seems fair that you get most of the fallout as well.

by HEmanZ 3y ago

People used to be able to maintain large remote friend circles before the telegram was invented. If they could do it by snail mail, you can do it with a phone and no social media.

coldtea 3y ago

Not when all others that you want to reach have switched to social media.

lynx23 3y ago
They disconnected their phone number and switched to social media? Or did they discontinue their postal address and switch to social media? I am sort of confused what you are trying to say.
- coldtea 3y ago
  They're spending their time on social media (instead of meeting friends and going out as much), they preferentially make their arrangements when going on and keeping touch on social media, they will often actively snub or forget people outside social media, and even if you manage to get time with them face to face, they're likely to discuss social media drama or just stare at their social media smartphone screen.
  - lynx23 3y ago
    OK, but given the behaviour you describe, why do you miss them, then? Sounds like these people dont add anything to your life, or at least dont really want to add something, which is also reason enough to not care.
    - coldtea 3y ago
      Because "these people" is most people. So minimizes the chances of finding people to "add something to your life". This is one result... https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-soci... https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu/reports/loneliness-in-america https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu/reports/loneliness-in-america
      - lynx23 3y ago
        Where I life: Nobody except journalists actually uses twitter for anything. FB is the social network for people my age, but has lost a lot of traction in the recent years. Most people that still use it share "funny" nonesense, but the amount of genuine personal postings has gone down. Instagram is not my age-group, so I couldn't really say, but at least I have never felt pressure to join. I call most of my friends on the phone, with very little exceptions. To sum it up: If I wouldn't read about the downfall of society because of social media on HN, I probably wouldn't have noticed. Likely a US specific problem, which is fine, after all, you guys pushed most of this social poison, so it seems fair that you get most of the fallout as well.