"The new Toughness Training in sports" is a somewhat dated book that talks about exactly your mindset and the problem with it and what a better mindset is, part

"The new Toughness Training in sports" is a somewhat dated book that talks about exactly your mindset and the problem with it and what a better mindset is, particularly if you want to win. You're probably also in an environment where you have emotions you were probably never taught how to deal with and a childhood where your parents might have never "seen" you. Maybe you might question if they would choose to spend time with you. If that's the case, you might read "running on empty" to get a glimpse of one potentially catastrophic future and focus on avoiding it now, rather than when you realize "winning" is a likely hedonistic and potentially empty pursuit and everything that creates a satisfying life is related to your emotions, for which social relationships are likely to have a positive impact while your "status" is likely to have a negative impact.