For a long time I've personally felt that if someone in my life is going back and forth from being friendly to being mean, I mark that relationship as being neg

For a long time I've personally felt that if someone in my life is going back and forth from being friendly to being mean, I mark that relationship as being negative. Not a question in my mind. Relationships are to be judged by consistent behavior over weeks, months and years. If I have to keep guessing if I'm going to get the stick or the carrot from someone, to me it's a no-brainer that I shouldn't expect kindness from them.