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>Eating out 6x a week, buying expensive coffee and the latest iPhone might pale in comparison to making a Little You. Are you joking? What it really means is

>Eating out 6x a week, buying expensive coffee and the latest iPhone might pale in comparison to making a Little You. Are you joking? What it really means is cutting back on things that actually affect quality of life. Like not being able to spend time with your child because you are working 3 jobs, so they grow up needing therapy and have barely any connection to you. Not having space for them to have their own room, so they grow up with no privacy and strained family relationships. Not being able to feed yourself and your child sufficiently due to cost and being time-poor, so you send them to school without lunch and everyone pities them. Not taking your child to the dentist, so they grow up with lifelong health issues. Not taking your child to the psychiatrist, so they grow up with undiagnosed mental health issues that compromise every aspect of their capability to be happy and educated during childhood and teenage years. Living in a bad neighbourhood so your child goes to a bad school (with lifelong educational consequences), barely ever experiences nature and can't go roam outside. This list is just a very limited subset of the real consequences.

clnq 3y ago
I think you have clashing perspectives, but I don't think they are joking. Both are good and interesting points of view, thank you for sharing.
joemazerino 3y ago
Why is the inevitable result some hard life working 3 jobs? If you care enough you will make it happen. Babies are expensive but they aren't life-changing expensive.
- vitehozonage 3y ago
  >Babies are expensive but they aren't life-changing expensive. I can't comprehend how you can say that. This is an actual human being with basically unbounded ability to benefit from absorbing your time and resources. >Why is the inevitable result some hard life working 3 jobs? It is a spectrum. The earlier comment in the chain stated "Some % of people will always want to have kids, no matter what circumstances. It's inelastic for them". This is the reality for some people in that spectrum. Anecdotally i'd say for -most- people. At some point, in my opinion, the consequences are bad. Saying it's just about not buying an iPhone seems like a rich person perspective from someone that has no idea how most people live and raise children

clnq 3y ago

I think you have clashing perspectives, but I don't think they are joking. Both are good and interesting points of view, thank you for sharing.

joemazerino 3y ago

Why is the inevitable result some hard life working 3 jobs? If you care enough you will make it happen. Babies are expensive but they aren't life-changing expensive.

vitehozonage 3y ago
>Babies are expensive but they aren't life-changing expensive. I can't comprehend how you can say that. This is an actual human being with basically unbounded ability to benefit from absorbing your time and resources. >Why is the inevitable result some hard life working 3 jobs? It is a spectrum. The earlier comment in the chain stated "Some % of people will always want to have kids, no matter what circumstances. It's inelastic for them". This is the reality for some people in that spectrum. Anecdotally i'd say for -most- people. At some point, in my opinion, the consequences are bad. Saying it's just about not buying an iPhone seems like a rich person perspective from someone that has no idea how most people live and raise children