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I don't really understand it tbh. I was with my partner for 10 years before we got married (for a visa) and we had 2 kids by then. It never occurred to me that

by jemmyw 3y ago

I don't really understand it tbh. I was with my partner for 10 years before we got married (for a visa) and we had 2 kids by then. It never occurred to me that I wasn't committed in every sense, and having that piece of paper made no difference. I kind of think that if you feel you need that official thing then it's a signal of not really being committed or loving in the first place, but that's more of a belief I'd turn on myself than think about you or others.

fuzzfactor 3y ago
When an entrepreneur or other potentially risk-taking individual gets married, I silently think "Congratulations, now if one of you craters financially, you're both ruined." What I enjoy most is a more faithful & trusting relationship than most marriages anyway. Also depends on how much you like having a third party(s) involved in your relationship, for some people that's all they know or prefer, others not so much. Institutions can be so much bigger than any two people so the influence can still be outsized even without marriage. "We don't need no piece of paper from the city hall . . ." --Joni Mitchell