This is a truth misunderstood. No static picture or dynamic model actually works for relationships. No "alignment" or polishing is guaranteed to work. What wo

This is a truth misunderstood. No static picture or dynamic model actually works for relationships. No "alignment" or polishing is guaranteed to work. What works is commitment: deciding to do what's necessary to make it work. Not promise, or practice, or experience, or a wealth of emotional intelligence. Commitment. If commitment translates to "avoiding scar tissue", fine. If "avoiding scar tissue" reinforces your commitment, even better. But the main thing for your own identity and your relationships is the commitment. And to realize: if it's not working, you're not committed. (And most likely, you have good reason not to be, and you're stuck half-in, half-out of something you can't stand but need, or with traits that both help and hurt you. Welcome to the real world of beings, which is... complicated.)