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Marriage happens in the heart. I perceive the big event as the opposite of something healthy. The need for a legal thing is resolved in Canada: if you live tog
by Fire-Dragon-DoL 3y ago
Marriage happens in the heart.
I perceive the big event as the opposite of something healthy.
The need for a legal thing is resolved in Canada: if you live together for 1 year, that's basically equivalent to being married.
I have been living with my partner for 13 years (I'm 34), we both work from home so that's some 24 x 365 x 13 hours together.
I occasionally ask her to marry me, for fun, and she says yes. At times she says maybe to joke. But really after living together for that long, does that even matter?
So there you go, another reason to never marry
We have two children.
- throwaway1492 3y ago> But really after living together for that long, does that even matter? FYI she’s not joking, you should surprise her and do it.
- Fire-Dragon-DoL 3y agoWe discussed that in a serious context too, so I know what she thinks on the matter. We also didn't want to deal with the additional cost of being married but not being citizens yet of the country we would marry in (we are now citizens though).
- Spivak 3y agoI'm in that boat, we got married but it was a formality and an excuse to throw a party for both our families. We had been all but the paperwork married for a decade. I like marriage as a ceremonial recognition of a thing that's already happened better than the maligning a commitment version.