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>Keep your sexual and romantic life to yourself in a programming community. It's normal for people to mention their romantic partners in casual conversation. S
by foldr 3y ago
>Keep your sexual and romantic life to yourself in a programming community.
It's normal for people to mention their romantic partners in casual conversation. Straight people do this all the time. So it's really really hard to interpret this request as anything other than a request for LGBTQ people specifically to hide the fact that they're LGBTQ from their coworkers.
Examples of straight people doing this:
> I have to leave early today to pick up my kids from school.
> I'm taking pat/maternity leave because we're having a baby.
> Can I bring my husband/wife to the team social?
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- sensanaty 3y agoAnd normal (aka non-insufferable) people would just frame these pretty much in the same exact way? - Gay people can have children as well - Gay people will also take paternity/maternal leave? Refer to the above point for this one - This one is the one where people usually just substitute the word "wife/husband" with "partner" Again, none of this has anything to do with software engineering or programming languages in the slightest, so why bring it up?
- foldr 3y agoI think we’re talking at cross purposes. My list isn’t intended to be a list of things that only straight people do. I’m in a gay marriage myself, so I’m perfectly aware that gay people can have spouses, children, etc. My point is exactly that gay people should be free to mention all the things on the list in just the same way that straight people regularly do (in programming communities and many other contexts). As for why people bring this stuff up, I think that reduces to the question of why people make small talk. I don't know, but they do.