I appreciate the idea but I think it's trickier then described. There are multiple reasons to tell and not tell a person you're in a relationship with the prob

I appreciate the idea but I think it's trickier then described. There are multiple reasons to tell and not tell a person you're in a relationship with the problems they cause you. Some of them benefit the relationship and some don't. It's a cliche to say that relationships are about compromise but that's because it's true. That compromise isn't always spoken; sometimes it's done without the other person even knowing. If you're clear eyed or empathetic or just love the other person you can know that they do the same thing for you. If you're none of those things you can make the compromise painfully clear and create a zero sum situation.