That sounds like a pretty foolproof way to approach it. In those specific examples, too, one is clearly for his benefit (unless he wants to grow up with a lazy

That sounds like a pretty foolproof way to approach it. In those specific examples, too, one is clearly for his benefit (unless he wants to grow up with a lazy eye...) and the other would solely be for yours. Not that I think parents should or need to be faultless perfect martyrs with no needs of their own, but social media clout means nothing to a two-year-old and is 100% for parents' gratification.