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Why are relationships holy and have to be salvaged at any cost? Just let go and move along

• dymk 3y ago
  Some relationships are important, others aren't. It's good to have a framework for keeping the ones that matter lasting. If you treat every relationship you ever have as disposable, eventually you'll just find yourself alone.
• newsclues 3y ago
  I only have one Mom. If I didn't put in the effort to fix the relationship I ruined, myself and my mother would suffer. I'm happy to let go and move on from most relationships, but some are holy and must be salvaged at any cost.
  • k8sToGo 3y ago
    > must be salvaged at any cost I disagree with this. Relationships with Cluster-B people can become very dangerous. This can even include parent-child relationships, for example, if the parent has NPD (narcisstic personality disorder). At the end you really need to look out for yourself and your mental health first (hence not at any cost).
    • newsclues 3y ago
      You missed the important part in that quote. "but _some_ are holy and must be salvaged at any cost" My relationship with my mother is part of that "some" for me. For others it may be someone else, but I didn't say everyone needs to salvage relationships with their parents at all, I shared my personal experience. Hopefully everyone has a relationship worth saving. Find that and fight for it, because a good relationship is worth any cost, up to including your life (eg. relationship with your child). I'm not an expert but does your way of thinking about this not map to Cluster-B personality types?
      • k8sToGo 3y ago
        No I simply misunderstood how you meant that part.