I’d think of this as two issues, assuming we’re talking about constructive critiques: (1) how do I not take snarky critiques of my work personally? (2) how do

I’d think of this as two issues, assuming we’re talking about constructive critiques: (1) how do I not take snarky critiques of my work personally? (2) how do I not take kind critiques of my work personally? Issue 1 is often about understanding why the other person is snarky. Do they get this issue a lot? Do they realize they’re being snarky? Are they just a dick? The goal here is to empathize so you can translate the feedback to issue 2. Issue 2 is often about your own relationship with your work. Are you wedded to it, because it’s the creation of your own hands? Is everyone else too dumb to see why your solutions work? Are you in an area where the underlying issues are opaque or challenging? The goal here is to be introspective + address why you have a gut reaction to the feedback. Eventually, you’re trying to get to a “reviewer and I against the problem” mindset. All that said - sometimes it’s not a bad thing to take things personally. Recognizing when “feedback” is out of bounds is part of the process. Good luck!