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I really don’t want to prescribe or suggest solutions to other people based on my own life (we’re all different , and I don’t know anyone else’s context better

I really don’t want to prescribe or suggest solutions to other people based on my own life (we’re all different , and I don’t know anyone else’s context better than my own) but I made the decision not to go and I really regret it now for one reason: I could go into the industry anytime, trying to get back into school years later as a “non traditional” student feels like an exercise in futility.

qup 3y ago
In your case, it sounds like you want to go to university but you feel like you shouldn't. Just go. There's no rules or expectations except those of other humans, and they don't matter.
- the_only_law 3y ago
  No, I admit I have concerns over how old I’d be when I get out, but I don’t really have any qualms around the expectations of others. If I did, I wouldn’t even be thinking about it. It’s more like I want to go but I can’t. It’s significantly more expensive now in so many ways. It requires time that I don’t have because need to make a living so I can survive. There’s a reason that so many people I knew in high school were killing themselves over “grooming” themselves for applications, scholarships, etc. I scoffed at councilors who seemed concerned I wasn’t doing the same things as everyone else, but now I regret that. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t cheap then either, but there were more opportunities and resources with less stipulation. Trust me, if I could just start start tomorrow, even at just a community college, I’d have done it yesterday. It’s particularly bad right now because I don’t have a job anymore and it’s not looking like I’m going to have one that will allow me to afford that anytime soon, so I’ve had to hemorrhage a lot of savings. But in previous years it was mostly some bureaucratic oversight I made that prevented me from getting in (probably would have started last year, but I lost my wallet and didn’t have an documents to prove my residence)

qup 3y ago

In your case, it sounds like you want to go to university but you feel like you shouldn't. Just go. There's no rules or expectations except those of other humans, and they don't matter.

the_only_law 3y ago
No, I admit I have concerns over how old I’d be when I get out, but I don’t really have any qualms around the expectations of others. If I did, I wouldn’t even be thinking about it. It’s more like I want to go but I can’t. It’s significantly more expensive now in so many ways. It requires time that I don’t have because need to make a living so I can survive. There’s a reason that so many people I knew in high school were killing themselves over “grooming” themselves for applications, scholarships, etc. I scoffed at councilors who seemed concerned I wasn’t doing the same things as everyone else, but now I regret that. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t cheap then either, but there were more opportunities and resources with less stipulation. Trust me, if I could just start start tomorrow, even at just a community college, I’d have done it yesterday. It’s particularly bad right now because I don’t have a job anymore and it’s not looking like I’m going to have one that will allow me to afford that anytime soon, so I’ve had to hemorrhage a lot of savings. But in previous years it was mostly some bureaucratic oversight I made that prevented me from getting in (probably would have started last year, but I lost my wallet and didn’t have an documents to prove my residence)