Here is my approach: It is okay to take criticism personally on the path to not taking it personally. Your thoughts and emotions are not you so first and forem

Here is my approach: It is okay to take criticism personally on the path to not taking it personally. Your thoughts and emotions are not you so first and foremost don't feel bad for feeling this way. I'm not saying you should act on them however. I suggest sitting down and making time, remembering the feeling and then feeling it. No need to psychoanalyze, and have mental talk. Just feel the pure emotions and be curious about them. Where do you fee them? what shape do they have? how big they are? what texture do they have? etc The point is to make the task of feeling your emotions interesting for your mind so it stays there enough to get used to it. Hypothesis: When an emotion is causing us suffering it is usually because we don't want it, but unfortunately thats not how they go away, especially if they are big emotions. After a while your mind will know the emotion so intimately that it will either be negligible or not come up at all. Note however, if you go towards the emotion with the intention of it going away this will not work, there must be total acceptance. So cultivating that loving curiosity may actually be the hard part. The trick there is that I like to imagine myself as a child having these emotions and soothing this child as a caring adult. There are other methods but this has been very helpful to me and I hope it will be helpful to you as well.