I don't have kids. I think the approach should highly depend on the kid. I for one was good at academic subjects and also reasonably concerned about my future

I don't have kids. I think the approach should highly depend on the kid. I for one was good at academic subjects and also reasonably concerned about my future to put in the work at school (I never ran off with the circus etc.), so hands-off approach worked well with me. It might not work as well with someone completely different.