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> So you need to develop an anti-fragile attitude towards criticism The most common way I've seen this done is by becoming numb and not caring at all or thinki
by gtirloni 3y ago
> So you need to develop an anti-fragile attitude towards criticism
The most common way I've seen this done is by becoming numb and not caring at all or thinking others are worth less than you so you shouldn't listen to them. Not options I'd choose for myself.
- roeles 3y agoThe knack is in detachment from your own views. Numbing to me implies not caring, while detachment from your views can be born from caring about improving. If you want to improve, this likely involves shedding some convictions you hold too close.
- gtirloni 3y agoI understand that, just sharing what I see most commonly.
- wildrhythms 3y agoI think it's OK to numb yourself from certain types of feedback like insults, general toxicity, passive-aggressiveness, and so on. But I think reacting to those things should come from a place of empathy: for example I don't know what's going on in someone's life that might make them so toxic in their feedback, the toxicity is probably an outlet after many months of pent up frustrations that are the actual root of the issue they're venting about, etc. I used to work in a customer facing support job, so I learned some strategies to keep cool from that.
- solarmist 3y agoNumbing and acceptance that shittyness happen are different. I will strongly disagree that numbing is useful. I grew up extremely emotionally numb and distant. Looking back it never simplified things.