TBH I think in both your examples the problem is the word "stupid" and not the structure of the sentence. Also just deciding whether some statement is a persona

TBH I think in both your examples the problem is the word "stupid" and not the structure of the sentence. Also just deciding whether some statement is a personal attack on the usage of you vs it seems a bit shallow. I would wager that most people writing these comments don't even think much about the difference. As others have written: always assume best intentions first and try to read the comments in the most favorable way.