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If somebody tells me "you are wrong" i take it personally. If they tell me "this looks wrong" and explains why, they are not criticising me but my work, which m
by Izmaki 3y ago
If somebody tells me "you are wrong" i take it personally. If they tell me "this looks wrong" and explains why, they are not criticising me but my work, which might truly have been wrong.
It's the difference between "you" and "it" being wrong, where only one of those is objective.
Another nice example:
"I'm so sorry, but this looks stupid"
Vs.
"I'm so sorry, but you're being stupid"
- fileeditview 3y agoTBH I think in both your examples the problem is the word "stupid" and not the structure of the sentence. Also just deciding whether some statement is a personal attack on the usage of you vs it seems a bit shallow. I would wager that most people writing these comments don't even think much about the difference. As others have written: always assume best intentions first and try to read the comments in the most favorable way.