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As a young adult who was recently a teenager, I can't help but feel concerned about the potential dangers of having no expectation of privacy from our parents,
by trillic 3y ago
As a young adult who was recently a teenager, I can't help but feel concerned about the potential dangers of having no expectation of privacy from our parents, especially when it comes to reading through our text messages.
While I understand the intention behind it, this practice can easily lead to conflicts and strained relationships.
Teenagers are at a stage in their lives where they are trying to establish their independence and develop a sense of self. By invading their privacy, parents risk undermining their trust and creating an atmosphere of constant surveillance. This not only hampers the natural process of growing up but also sends a message that their thoughts and personal space are not respected.
- rthomas6 3y agoYou don't know how old exactly OP's kids are. There is a big difference between 13 and 19.
- slothtrop 3y agoYes this seems trivially true, even just looking back at my own teenage years on the family computer. I don't think the remedy is more helicopter parenting. It suffices to limit screen time across the board and empower kids with knowledge surrounding the risks of over use.
- rovolo 3y agoMy partner's mom read her diary at ~11 and then got mad at her for writing about her frustrations with her mom. She then grounded my 18yo nibbling a couple weeks ago for writing the same sort of frustrations on the notes app on their phone (she's the legal guardian). My partner became withdrawn from her mom and kept all of her social life to herself, hidden from her mom.
- bradlys 3y agoYep. This is exactly what happens. I already had a strained relationship with my parents but when they invaded my privacy - I decided to lock it down way harder and cut them out entirely from my life. I'll pickup a phone call from them every few months but that's all they get. It's a great way to ruin relationships with your kids. Keep at it, HN know-it-alls.
- carabiner 3y ago"If you punish honesty, expect to be lied to."
- sampling 3y agoThis is quite profound, is this quoted from anywhere or are these your own words?
- carabiner 3y agoI think I read it here: https://www.quora.com/What-is-a-short-useful-and-generally-applicable-piece-of-wisdom/answer/Jim-Stone-4?ch=15&oid=3185981&share=e01b26e1&srid=uBgm&target_type=answer https://www.quora.com/What-is-a-short-useful-and-generally-a...
- mixmastamyk 3y ago> atmosphere of constant surveillance You've just described modern life—better get used to it early. Never every put anything sensitive in an electronic message.
- carabiner 3y agoI have vivid memories of my parents barging into my bedroom when I was or was not there to do absolutely anything they wanted. They also opened all of my mail. I haven't talked to them in 15 years.