Sexists/racists/homophobes are typically perfectly nice people; they just don't notice they're doing anything wrong. Like the guy who calls everything "gay" wh

Sexists/racists/homophobes are typically perfectly nice people; they just don't notice they're doing anything wrong. Like the guy who calls everything "gay" when he finds something insufficiently male or good. And the last time I invited a female into my workplace, my male coworkers thought it was perfectly normal and funny to put down women's achievements. (And by mainstream standards, I guess it was.) She was fuming afterwards. To be not-quite-so-sexist takes active work, because we are embedded in a sexist society. Being sexist is the neutral default. I think I'm sexist. Maybe every man I've met is.