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Well said. I’ve had a friend, who is non binary, tell me “they didn’t feel like themselves”. We had a very good chat wherein I revealed, as a straight white mal

Well said. I’ve had a friend, who is non binary, tell me “they didn’t feel like themselves”. We had a very good chat wherein I revealed, as a straight white male, I too am plagued by the thought that I am the wrong person living the wrong life. My choices are my own and I do not presume to judge anyone else's choices. But “thrown-ness” is not an indication of your sexuality (edit: or gender) - it’s an indication of your humanity.

Kye 3y ago
This is about gender, not sexuality. Your confusion is understandable, but common among those who have not done the work required to have an opinion[0]. [0] https://fs.blog/the-work-required-to-have-an-opinion/ https://fs.blog/the-work-required-to-have-an-opinion/
- erulabs 3y ago
  I don’t think telling people they don’t know enough about the human experience is the convincing argument you think it is. I do respect you and your opinion though - how can you possibly know what I’ve been through? It applies equally, you see? Edit: the person who replied to me does not want me reply to them. Ideally, I’ve already said enough. Pedantically, you can assume “sexuality and gender” is the implication of the word “sexuality” above. Requiring homework or ideological preagreement before “being allowed to have an opinion” is among the most concerning things I’ve read that has been written in my lifetime.
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  - Kye 3y ago
    >> "I don’t think telling people they don’t know enough about the human experience" I'm going to stop you right there. I didn't say that. Let's back up to the post you replied to. >> "Everyone is non-binary. The culture-bound stereotypes that are attached to and imposed upon female and male aren't enacted fully by anyone. One does not need an additional identity outside of woman or man to do this." This isn't about "the human experience." This is about a specific human experience that you may have, but clearly need to process a bit more before you go around trying to dismiss--or participate in the dismissal--of others' experiences. You do not know what you don't know and you reveal that in conflating gender and sexuality. edit: I already responded to their post, so I won't be discussing this further. I've said all there is to say. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36026470 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36026470

Kye 3y ago

This is about gender, not sexuality. Your confusion is understandable, but common among those who have not done the work required to have an opinion[0]. [0] https://fs.blog/the-work-required-to-have-an-opinion/ https://fs.blog/the-work-required-to-have-an-opinion/

erulabs 3y ago
I don’t think telling people they don’t know enough about the human experience is the convincing argument you think it is. I do respect you and your opinion though - how can you possibly know what I’ve been through? It applies equally, you see? Edit: the person who replied to me does not want me reply to them. Ideally, I’ve already said enough. Pedantically, you can assume “sexuality and gender” is the implication of the word “sexuality” above. Requiring homework or ideological preagreement before “being allowed to have an opinion” is among the most concerning things I’ve read that has been written in my lifetime.
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- Kye 3y ago
  >> "I don’t think telling people they don’t know enough about the human experience" I'm going to stop you right there. I didn't say that. Let's back up to the post you replied to. >> "Everyone is non-binary. The culture-bound stereotypes that are attached to and imposed upon female and male aren't enacted fully by anyone. One does not need an additional identity outside of woman or man to do this." This isn't about "the human experience." This is about a specific human experience that you may have, but clearly need to process a bit more before you go around trying to dismiss--or participate in the dismissal--of others' experiences. You do not know what you don't know and you reveal that in conflating gender and sexuality. edit: I already responded to their post, so I won't be discussing this further. I've said all there is to say. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36026470 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36026470