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SUFFERING IS A PART OF LIVING. as someone who has lost many friends and family members to suicide, articles like this feel so naive. at their funerals, there’
by j3s 3y ago
SUFFERING IS A PART OF LIVING.
as someone who has lost many friends and family members to suicide, articles like this feel so naive.
at their funerals, there’s always a person saying “let’s remember them how they lived, not how they suffered”
no. their suffering was a big part of their lived experience, and i will remember it forever. people who want to commit suicide do want to stop living. sometimes it’s because there is so much suffering in their life they can’t take it - sometimes it’s something else.
thousands of years ago, people knew that life _is_ suffering. it’s so disgusting to me to pretend that life and suffering aren’t intertwined.
some people can’t take it, and that’s fine. we didn’t ask to be here. but when those people go, let’s not falsify our memories of them because we don’t personally like the idea of suffering.
so infantalizing.
- Centigonal 3y agoEdit: I re-read your comment, and I think I was responding to what I thought you said, not what you were actually saying, so I'm rewriting my response. You're right that suffering is an essential and inevitable part of life. We shouldn't erase the suffering that informs people's identities just because it makes us uncomfortable. The amount of suffering in life varies from person to person and moment to moment, and can be influenced to some degree. For some (but not all) suicidal people, it is possible to make changes (different life situation, therapy, better connections, removal of stressors) to reduce suffering to a bearable level so that they want to keep on living and are no longer suicidal.
- j3s 3y agotrue & i don't dispute that, thanks for the comment. it's kind of a touchy subject for me & i appreciate your balanced response.