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For me it is more the other way round. The older I get the less understanding I have for them. As a teenager I got along perfectly with them but now that I am a
by jeltz 3y ago
For me it is more the other way round. The older I get the less understanding I have for them. As a teenager I got along perfectly with them but now that I am almost 40 I realize that they were pretty shitty parents. Especially when I realize what they did to my siblings.
Edit: To expand I have more sympathy with my mother because I know of some of her traumas growing up. But I have a harder time to excuse my father.
- cpursley 3y agoDo you have children? After having one (1), I realized that my “shitty parents” were actually amazing superhumans, despite all their very human flaws.
- hnuser847 3y agoOpposite experience for me. After I had kids, I realized how shitty and neglectful my parents had been. They kept me alive but they otherwise didn’t do much. They were more like roommates than parents.
- kaba0 3y agoThat will depend very much on the individual. Someone who were beaten by their parents won’t suddenly turn around and love them when they themselves get children.