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I know it sounds like I'm judging you, and I probably seem like a right ignorant lazy little white prick, I bet you're ready to just about dismiss anything else

I know it sounds like I'm judging you, and I probably seem like a right ignorant lazy little white prick, I bet you're ready to just about dismiss anything else I have to say, so I'm sorry to trouble you further, but I wanted to know more. Seems like you believe it's not about where you start, it's about what you choose to do with it that matters, and sounds like you really value taking personal responsibility and working to improve your situation with your choices, rather than whinging, blaming others, making excuses, or playing the fake victim and acting entitled to the generosity of others. Sounds like you find such people really gross and disgusting, and an abomination, or at least their behavior. I've probably already ruined your mood with my super judgy sounding comment so I'm sure you won't care what I say, but: when I read your comment i thought you were talking about leaving good people who were your family nothing, because they didn't have to suffer in the same way you clearly did. As in: because they didn't learn to overcome the same lessons and challenges you specifically learned, they didn't deserve or earn it. As in, because, by your effort they were given an easier to start to life, you felt disgusted to make it any easier for them than you had already sacrificed to provide, and, out of some kind of resentment at having to have spend your hard earned wealth on them at all, will give them a final kick beyond the grave by gifting all your wealth to charity, as punishment. I wasn't assuming your family was going to be egregiously, lazy, ignorant little white pricks, born in the lap of luxury and grifting off their benevolent wealthy relatives, like I'm sure you probably think I am. How do you think people should accomplish raising their kids right?

moomoo11 3y ago
The primary reason where I'm from has so many problem is because of my own people hoarding money and doing corrupt things like diverting funds for projects to their own bank accounts. I don't think it has anything to do with race, it is a mentality. Isn't there research that shows that wealth concentration across generations just leads to that wealth dissipating within 2-3 generations? What's the point of that? I want my children to know the value of money.. that is that money comes by providing value to others. Pleasing one's parents/guardians/family is not that hard, IMO that's just a baseline. Actually getting people to pay for something one made or can do is a lot harder, and takes deep efforts to accomplish. If my kids want to ask me for some money to start a business or attend some course, sure I'm more than happy to oblige. When I pass away, I hope my kids would have been able to build something of their own because they took inspiration from the world and people in it to be valuable human beings while I was still alive. I would honestly be proud if I don't have to leave anything to my children, because they have become capable individuals. It would be trivial for me to leave everything to my family, took like 20 minutes to write a will. It is far more challenging and rewarding to raise good men and women, and I think I can do that by encouraging them to provide value to others. My parents could barely afford to feed themselves but after we moved to US put me into things like Kumon, a basketball camp, took me to the hospital to volunteer, encouraged me to do after school activities like robotics and math club, go to the library, etc.. I think it made me a far better person. When my grandfather passed away he had no money or assets to his name. You know what he said on his death bed? He was proud of his children and grandchildren, that they had taken life by the reins and done their best to steer that horse. "Have a good life" is what he said to me. I want my kids to have a good life too. While I'm alive I'll set them up for it. We all have our viewpoints, so that's mine.
- graderjs 3y ago
  Sounds like your parents Had good ideas about how to make the most of the opportunity they acquired by coming to America. As it happens, my grandfather said something very similar to me and repeated it to me throughout his life.

moomoo11 3y ago

The primary reason where I'm from has so many problem is because of my own people hoarding money and doing corrupt things like diverting funds for projects to their own bank accounts. I don't think it has anything to do with race, it is a mentality. Isn't there research that shows that wealth concentration across generations just leads to that wealth dissipating within 2-3 generations? What's the point of that? I want my children to know the value of money.. that is that money comes by providing value to others. Pleasing one's parents/guardians/family is not that hard, IMO that's just a baseline. Actually getting people to pay for something one made or can do is a lot harder, and takes deep efforts to accomplish. If my kids want to ask me for some money to start a business or attend some course, sure I'm more than happy to oblige. When I pass away, I hope my kids would have been able to build something of their own because they took inspiration from the world and people in it to be valuable human beings while I was still alive. I would honestly be proud if I don't have to leave anything to my children, because they have become capable individuals. It would be trivial for me to leave everything to my family, took like 20 minutes to write a will. It is far more challenging and rewarding to raise good men and women, and I think I can do that by encouraging them to provide value to others. My parents could barely afford to feed themselves but after we moved to US put me into things like Kumon, a basketball camp, took me to the hospital to volunteer, encouraged me to do after school activities like robotics and math club, go to the library, etc.. I think it made me a far better person. When my grandfather passed away he had no money or assets to his name. You know what he said on his death bed? He was proud of his children and grandchildren, that they had taken life by the reins and done their best to steer that horse. "Have a good life" is what he said to me. I want my kids to have a good life too. While I'm alive I'll set them up for it. We all have our viewpoints, so that's mine.

graderjs 3y ago
Sounds like your parents Had good ideas about how to make the most of the opportunity they acquired by coming to America. As it happens, my grandfather said something very similar to me and repeated it to me throughout his life.