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Yup, I read it, and I read it months ago too, it's come up a few times. What I'm saying is that it's absolutely possible to quickly and efficiently say those q

Yup, I read it, and I read it months ago too, it's come up a few times. What I'm saying is that it's absolutely possible to quickly and efficiently say those quality thoughts that springs to mind, in a respectful manner. And yes, it is a skill people should learn because it gives you a superset of advantages compared to if you don't. You can talk to a wider slice of people, and learn more from them as well. It's not very time-consuming or laborious, either. If I'm able to communicate my thoughts to you in a respectful manner, why would I change to be brutal about it? Once you know both, you tend to see that the brutality, aside from its other disadvantages, is simply superfluous.

Freebytes 3y ago
You hit the nail on the head, especially about the time-consuming aspect. People confuse honesty and respect. You can always be truthful while still maintaining respect and appreciation of others. "Did you like my singing?" Option A: "No. You sounded like an animal being slaughtered. If this is a hobby of yours, I would recommend a different one." Option B: "Not really." Option C: "It is not my style, but you sounded like your were enjoying yourself." Option D: "You really had a lot of passion. There were times you struggled, though, so you should record yourself and practice on those points. When you have everything ironed out, I would be happy to offer an honest critique again." This is going from rude responses to respectful responses. Option B is actually more honest than Option A, but is less 'brutal'. However, if a person is truly seeking a critique, you can offer one in detail, but it is probably better to ask if they are seeking your actual preferences or your critique in that type of situation.