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I’m against it until I’m in that situation myself. And if I am I’m probably not passing on all my wealth to my family besides a really healthy trust.. because i

I’m against it until I’m in that situation myself. And if I am I’m probably not passing on all my wealth to my family besides a really healthy trust.. because if they can’t manage to stand on their two feet and make hella gains with a few million dollars they are losers imo. I personally started with $0 and have managed to do well enough for myself thus far as a swe and pursuing some business ideas. I know people who can’t do shit with millions. Rather have the money go to St Jude or some other charity.

graderjs 3y ago
That's a horrible opinion to have of your family. Do you really have kids and a spouse? Why do you get to "judge" what they "do" with it? They're your family. They can live beyond your dreams of what's possible, you can't proscribe or foresee what they can do. You should want to support them, and make their life easy, and pass on your gains were you to die, right? How can you think giving it to some random charity is better than passing it to your own blood? That's a poverty of family love, to me.
- jrajav 3y ago
  Did you miss the "with a few million dollars" part? That's more than enough money to be comfortable for your entire life, several lives really, plus enough capital to start any kind of business your passion leads you to. I truly don't think the viewpoint GP expressed is incompatible with familial love and setting up a great life for your children.
  - graderjs 3y ago
    I did miss that as being significant but did read it: yet based on the attitude displayed, it's not entirely clear that's in the cards. It seems the commenter is more talking about her/his idea of a "principle" whereby we can "judge a person's value (and eligibility to inherit from the commenter)" by what they have done / would do with such money. This person seems to suggest they themselves have high value in that regard, and seems to suggest their family does not. To me, it wasn't clear the commenter intends to leave them "a few million" as you seem to suggest.
    - moomoo11 3y ago
      Feel free to judge me. I personally grew up poor AF in a 3rd world country with no resource (no running water, a hole for a toilet, and we used lamps at night to study). It bothers me when I see people in USA basically live off their parents and complain non-stop over dumb things. That's like, my opinion bro. I'll be leaving my family a generous amount, don't you worry about them. I love them very much, and I want them to be successful on their own two feet and not depend on me to die so they can ball out. More importantly, I'll raise my kids right compared to the fools I see around me in USA who just live off their lineage and still manage to complain over the dumbest things. Case in point - my housemate from a few years ago when I was broke AF and living in a cheap 10x8 room.. this dude spent basically 16 hours a day playing call of duty/drinking/smoking weed and he basically told me he was waiting for his grandmother to die so he can receive some money. She ended up dying from Covid and he got almost 600k. He still smokes weed, gets drunk, and even got a DUI recently. I would be ashamed if he was my kid for failing as a parent. He's probably the most egregious example, but I know plenty of others who don't work hard because they know they're going to get a ton of money from their grandparents/parents dying so they just play the long game. I find that gross.. imagine wasting your life until you're 40 waiting for a payday from granny or mommy passing away.
      - graderjs 3y ago
        I know it sounds like I'm judging you, and I probably seem like a right ignorant lazy little white prick, I bet you're ready to just about dismiss anything else I have to say, so I'm sorry to trouble you further, but I wanted to know more. Seems like you believe it's not about where you start, it's about what you choose to do with it that matters, and sounds like you really value taking personal responsibility and working to improve your situation with your choices, rather than whinging, blaming others, making excuses, or playing the fake victim and acting entitled to the generosity of others. Sounds like you find such people really gross and disgusting, and an abomination, or at least their behavior. I've probably already ruined your mood with my super judgy sounding comment so I'm sure you won't care what I say, but: when I read your comment i thought you were talking about leaving good people who were your family nothing, because they didn't have to suffer in the same way you clearly did. As in: because they didn't learn to overcome the same lessons and challenges you specifically learned, they didn't deserve or earn it. As in, because, by your effort they were given an easier to start to life, you felt disgusted to make it any easier for them than you had already sacrificed to provide, and, out of some kind of resentment at having to have spend your hard earned wealth on them at all, will give them a final kick beyond the grave by gifting all your wealth to charity, as punishment. I wasn't assuming your family was going to be egregiously, lazy, ignorant little white pricks, born in the lap of luxury and grifting off their benevolent wealthy relatives, like I'm sure you probably think I am. How do you think people should accomplish raising their kids right?

graderjs 3y ago

That's a horrible opinion to have of your family. Do you really have kids and a spouse? Why do you get to "judge" what they "do" with it? They're your family. They can live beyond your dreams of what's possible, you can't proscribe or foresee what they can do. You should want to support them, and make their life easy, and pass on your gains were you to die, right? How can you think giving it to some random charity is better than passing it to your own blood? That's a poverty of family love, to me.

jrajav 3y ago
Did you miss the "with a few million dollars" part? That's more than enough money to be comfortable for your entire life, several lives really, plus enough capital to start any kind of business your passion leads you to. I truly don't think the viewpoint GP expressed is incompatible with familial love and setting up a great life for your children.
- graderjs 3y ago
  I did miss that as being significant but did read it: yet based on the attitude displayed, it's not entirely clear that's in the cards. It seems the commenter is more talking about her/his idea of a "principle" whereby we can "judge a person's value (and eligibility to inherit from the commenter)" by what they have done / would do with such money. This person seems to suggest they themselves have high value in that regard, and seems to suggest their family does not. To me, it wasn't clear the commenter intends to leave them "a few million" as you seem to suggest.
  - moomoo11 3y ago
    Feel free to judge me. I personally grew up poor AF in a 3rd world country with no resource (no running water, a hole for a toilet, and we used lamps at night to study). It bothers me when I see people in USA basically live off their parents and complain non-stop over dumb things. That's like, my opinion bro. I'll be leaving my family a generous amount, don't you worry about them. I love them very much, and I want them to be successful on their own two feet and not depend on me to die so they can ball out. More importantly, I'll raise my kids right compared to the fools I see around me in USA who just live off their lineage and still manage to complain over the dumbest things. Case in point - my housemate from a few years ago when I was broke AF and living in a cheap 10x8 room.. this dude spent basically 16 hours a day playing call of duty/drinking/smoking weed and he basically told me he was waiting for his grandmother to die so he can receive some money. She ended up dying from Covid and he got almost 600k. He still smokes weed, gets drunk, and even got a DUI recently. I would be ashamed if he was my kid for failing as a parent. He's probably the most egregious example, but I know plenty of others who don't work hard because they know they're going to get a ton of money from their grandparents/parents dying so they just play the long game. I find that gross.. imagine wasting your life until you're 40 waiting for a payday from granny or mommy passing away.
    - graderjs 3y ago
      I know it sounds like I'm judging you, and I probably seem like a right ignorant lazy little white prick, I bet you're ready to just about dismiss anything else I have to say, so I'm sorry to trouble you further, but I wanted to know more. Seems like you believe it's not about where you start, it's about what you choose to do with it that matters, and sounds like you really value taking personal responsibility and working to improve your situation with your choices, rather than whinging, blaming others, making excuses, or playing the fake victim and acting entitled to the generosity of others. Sounds like you find such people really gross and disgusting, and an abomination, or at least their behavior. I've probably already ruined your mood with my super judgy sounding comment so I'm sure you won't care what I say, but: when I read your comment i thought you were talking about leaving good people who were your family nothing, because they didn't have to suffer in the same way you clearly did. As in: because they didn't learn to overcome the same lessons and challenges you specifically learned, they didn't deserve or earn it. As in, because, by your effort they were given an easier to start to life, you felt disgusted to make it any easier for them than you had already sacrificed to provide, and, out of some kind of resentment at having to have spend your hard earned wealth on them at all, will give them a final kick beyond the grave by gifting all your wealth to charity, as punishment. I wasn't assuming your family was going to be egregiously, lazy, ignorant little white pricks, born in the lap of luxury and grifting off their benevolent wealthy relatives, like I'm sure you probably think I am. How do you think people should accomplish raising their kids right?