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> I don’t totally believe that remote work is going to go completely away . I think that personally for me never going into the office wasn’t really a great exp

> I don’t totally believe that remote work is going to go completely away . I think that personally for me never going into the office wasn’t really a great experience. It made me much more sedimentary (which in tech is almost a work hazard) but that was my fault . I do like being hybrid (but also the team I was a part of basically stopped existing) so while I think it could be a combination of working from home and the team imploding made me lonely. I think a lot of people ran into these problems, but there are solutions. Work doesn't have to be your only source of community, and in fact, it can be problematic when it is, because then your community only lasts as long as your job. On the one hand you might lose your job, and on the other hand you might not quit when you should. Having connections outside work is pretty key to having work/life balance IMO.

972811 3y ago
love when commenters are just immediately dismissive of other people's preferences. I feel the same as OP. I have a very healthy social life outside of work but full time remote work at home feels isolating and repetitive. My mind does not like the lack of separation between home and work and I've tried every trick in the book. This is also true for most other activities in my life (e.g. I don't like exercising at home vs. a gym). I don't want to force people to the office, but it gets tiring hearing other people assuming I haven't tried their "solutions"
- zitterbewegung 3y ago
  Don’t worry it’s not the worst one. That one was where I said I liked the Apple Keyboard on the 12 inch model and that I didn’t experience many keyboards but I have used an IBM model M, Corsair k70 and various other ones. So you can get keyboard shamed…
- kerkeslager 3y ago
  I wasn't dismissing their preference. > I have a very healthy social life outside of work but full time remote work at home feels isolating and repetitive. My mind does not like the lack of separation between home and work and I've tried every trick in the book. If OP had said any of that, I wouldn't have responded in the way I did.
  - zitterbewegung 3y ago
    I have other senses of community but that doesn’t mean that working from home for long periods of time makes me feel that way.
- CapstanRoller 3y ago
  One big problem with these preferences is that they carry an incredibly high long-term cost for society. One can't easily switch from a skyscraper to a park or apartment building. Office work culture affects how entire cities are designed.
  - 972811 3y ago
    sure - I agree with this, but I think this goes both ways. I will give a parallel situation that I think about quite a bit: cars. Cars have quite a bit of the same benefits as remote work. You can live further from work, you have independence, and quite a bit of the concrete negatives (e.g. no more crowded public transit) generally go away. But we now know that designing society around cars was a mistake. It ends up being bad for everyone and is more isolating by default. I'm similarly concerned about doing something that will make Americans more isolated by default.
    - CapstanRoller 3y ago
      >I'm similarly concerned about doing something that will make Americans more isolated by default. You're right to be concerned about this, but I think it stems from a combination of "false dichotomy" and "learned helplessness": The socializing we do at work is ultimately a side effect of the work environment, not part of the primary goal. We can learn from how non-car-oriented societies structure their settlements. Returning to the previous (and terrible) iteration of the American status quo is not the only alternative. We don't have to settle for terrible choices simply because they have mildly beneficial side effects.
      - kerkeslager 3y ago
        I'd also like to start taking steps toward a society with less work. There will come a time when human work simply isn't needed: when robots can do the physical labor and AIs can do the mental labor--perhaps not in our lifetimes, but it will happen. And even now, we don't need to be working as much as we do.
the_mar 3y ago
> Work doesn't have to be your only source of community, and in fact, it can be problematic when it is, because then your community only lasts as long as your job. Literally all of my adult friends are former coworkers, with some of them not even becoming friends until after we quit jobs. You spend majority of your waking hours at work, where else do you make friends? Please don't say the gym.
- kerkeslager 3y ago
  > Literally all of my adult friends are former coworkers, with some of them not even becoming friends until after we quit jobs. Ehh, some of my friends are that way too, but a lot of my work friendships have withered when there wasn't work keeping us in contact on a regular basis. > You spend majority of your waking hours at work, where else do you make friends? Please don't say the gym. It doesn't have to be the gym either. I personally have met a lot of my friends out rock climbing, but that's going to vary from person to person because you have to find things you enjoy doing. Going to the gym to meet people if you don't enjoy working out at the gym doesn't make sense. Are there other things you enjoy doing besides work? (Incidentally, I don't spend the majority of my waking hours at work).
  - the_mar 3y ago
    > Ehh, some of my friends are that way too, but a lot of my work friendships have withered when there wasn't work keeping us in contact on a regular basis. Can you really say they were your friends tho? do you think your rock climbing buddies will be your buddies after you stop? I think going to the gym is not a social activity and I am very tired of bro's giving me "feedback" on my deadlifts. Let's examine your I don't spend majority of hours claim, So there are 24 hours in the day, you work for 8, 2 hours for commuting, 1 hour for showering, taking a shits, getting dressed and all that, 1 hour for various chores, like buying groceries, laundry, cooking, etc, 1 hour for exercise, 7 hours for sleep. You have about 6 hours a day left for "fun". Last time I checked 6<8
    - kerkeslager 3y ago
zitterbewegung 3y ago
It isn’t my only source of community. I participate in my local python software group and also I help out with a research software package porting algorithms to it so I do have alternate places where I have communities.
DiggyJohnson 3y ago
> Work doesn't have to be your only source of community Sorry if this sounds blunt, I’m moments away from sleep, but this comment of yours really frustrated me. You are assuming that someone who enjoys the social aspects of working in person does so because they lack social outlets outside the workplace. That is just your assumption, and a distortion of the discussion. I see this all the time. What gives?

972811 3y ago

love when commenters are just immediately dismissive of other people's preferences. I feel the same as OP. I have a very healthy social life outside of work but full time remote work at home feels isolating and repetitive. My mind does not like the lack of separation between home and work and I've tried every trick in the book. This is also true for most other activities in my life (e.g. I don't like exercising at home vs. a gym). I don't want to force people to the office, but it gets tiring hearing other people assuming I haven't tried their "solutions"

zitterbewegung 3y ago
Don’t worry it’s not the worst one. That one was where I said I liked the Apple Keyboard on the 12 inch model and that I didn’t experience many keyboards but I have used an IBM model M, Corsair k70 and various other ones. So you can get keyboard shamed…
kerkeslager 3y ago
I wasn't dismissing their preference. > I have a very healthy social life outside of work but full time remote work at home feels isolating and repetitive. My mind does not like the lack of separation between home and work and I've tried every trick in the book. If OP had said any of that, I wouldn't have responded in the way I did.
- zitterbewegung 3y ago
  I have other senses of community but that doesn’t mean that working from home for long periods of time makes me feel that way.
CapstanRoller 3y ago
One big problem with these preferences is that they carry an incredibly high long-term cost for society. One can't easily switch from a skyscraper to a park or apartment building. Office work culture affects how entire cities are designed.
- 972811 3y ago
  sure - I agree with this, but I think this goes both ways. I will give a parallel situation that I think about quite a bit: cars. Cars have quite a bit of the same benefits as remote work. You can live further from work, you have independence, and quite a bit of the concrete negatives (e.g. no more crowded public transit) generally go away. But we now know that designing society around cars was a mistake. It ends up being bad for everyone and is more isolating by default. I'm similarly concerned about doing something that will make Americans more isolated by default.
  - CapstanRoller 3y ago
    >I'm similarly concerned about doing something that will make Americans more isolated by default. You're right to be concerned about this, but I think it stems from a combination of "false dichotomy" and "learned helplessness": The socializing we do at work is ultimately a side effect of the work environment, not part of the primary goal. We can learn from how non-car-oriented societies structure their settlements. Returning to the previous (and terrible) iteration of the American status quo is not the only alternative. We don't have to settle for terrible choices simply because they have mildly beneficial side effects.
    - kerkeslager 3y ago
      I'd also like to start taking steps toward a society with less work. There will come a time when human work simply isn't needed: when robots can do the physical labor and AIs can do the mental labor--perhaps not in our lifetimes, but it will happen. And even now, we don't need to be working as much as we do.

the_mar 3y ago

> Work doesn't have to be your only source of community, and in fact, it can be problematic when it is, because then your community only lasts as long as your job. Literally all of my adult friends are former coworkers, with some of them not even becoming friends until after we quit jobs. You spend majority of your waking hours at work, where else do you make friends? Please don't say the gym.

kerkeslager 3y ago
> Literally all of my adult friends are former coworkers, with some of them not even becoming friends until after we quit jobs. Ehh, some of my friends are that way too, but a lot of my work friendships have withered when there wasn't work keeping us in contact on a regular basis. > You spend majority of your waking hours at work, where else do you make friends? Please don't say the gym. It doesn't have to be the gym either. I personally have met a lot of my friends out rock climbing, but that's going to vary from person to person because you have to find things you enjoy doing. Going to the gym to meet people if you don't enjoy working out at the gym doesn't make sense. Are there other things you enjoy doing besides work? (Incidentally, I don't spend the majority of my waking hours at work).
- the_mar 3y ago
  > Ehh, some of my friends are that way too, but a lot of my work friendships have withered when there wasn't work keeping us in contact on a regular basis. Can you really say they were your friends tho? do you think your rock climbing buddies will be your buddies after you stop? I think going to the gym is not a social activity and I am very tired of bro's giving me "feedback" on my deadlifts. Let's examine your I don't spend majority of hours claim, So there are 24 hours in the day, you work for 8, 2 hours for commuting, 1 hour for showering, taking a shits, getting dressed and all that, 1 hour for various chores, like buying groceries, laundry, cooking, etc, 1 hour for exercise, 7 hours for sleep. You have about 6 hours a day left for "fun". Last time I checked 6<8
  - kerkeslager 3y ago

zitterbewegung 3y ago

It isn’t my only source of community. I participate in my local python software group and also I help out with a research software package porting algorithms to it so I do have alternate places where I have communities.

DiggyJohnson 3y ago

> Work doesn't have to be your only source of community Sorry if this sounds blunt, I’m moments away from sleep, but this comment of yours really frustrated me. You are assuming that someone who enjoys the social aspects of working in person does so because they lack social outlets outside the workplace. That is just your assumption, and a distortion of the discussion. I see this all the time. What gives?