I came out online in the mid 90s and in rural MI in 2000. I also find this maddening and frankly it feels kind of like gaslighting. Corrective rape/assault and

I came out online in the mid 90s and in rural MI in 2000. I also find this maddening and frankly it feels kind of like gaslighting. Corrective rape/assault and violent reactions to my sexuality were things I had to seriously consider every time I met new people/was in a new place/in a new situation. Now I generally don't have to worry that if I tell someone I'm gay they'll beat me up or try to 'fix' me. They might make comments or give me a look, but I don't have that fear of people finding out like I had growing up.