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It’s not narcissism. Don’t use terms you’ve researched on Wikipedia to diagnose other people. If that’s narcissism, then what’s creating a project that is the u
by asdfman123 3y ago
It’s not narcissism. Don’t use terms you’ve researched on Wikipedia to diagnose other people. If that’s narcissism, then what’s creating a project that is the unique extension of your own values?
I’ll answer: both are legitimate ways to approach the world, that may involve an acceptable and perhaps at times level of selfishness.
Sometimes things don’t work with other people because you don’t see things the same way. They are not Wrong and Bad.
- satisfice 3y agoI like that I can scan down the comments on HN and usually find one that says what I wanted to say. Damn straight. It's not narcissism to have ideas and be excited about them and to suggest that a team or a founder pursue those ideas, whether or not that jibes with someone else's original vision. The OP doesn't tell us what the reaction was of the person who offered him help, when he re-explained his vision. Was the reaction something like "oh, okay, I didn't realize you felt so strongly about that?" Was it "I'm a narcissist and I don't care what you want?" I think the OP might be a little insecure about negotiating with other people-- which is fine-- but what not fine is to turn that into universal advice for other people about not talking to strangers.
- asdfman123 3y agoI read it clearly as someone who does not want to work with other people and deal with their bs. That’s fine, I get it. But at least be mature about that and own it. There’s a reason why there’s a profession in software—management—that often exclusively involves dealing with other people. In fact, good management is critical to the success of any large project. But it’s not an easy job.