Nothing about either phrasing sounds condescending to me. However, communication is more than words. You can ask about feelings with a gentle tone, a supportiv

Nothing about either phrasing sounds condescending to me. However, communication is more than words. You can ask about feelings with a gentle tone, a supportive gaze at eye level, and a hand on the shoulder. Or you can do it from above with an eye roll and a sarcastic bite. I can easily see a frustrated parent giving in to their own emotions and using the latter approach.