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Mother is more likely to be a biological parent, yes, but that's not going to be it. The kid certainly won't know. It's 'Mother Tongue' nor 'Father Tongue'. Wo

by jasmer 3y ago

Mother is more likely to be a biological parent, yes, but that's not going to be it. The kid certainly won't know. It's 'Mother Tongue' nor 'Father Tongue'. Women raise the children, they're more likely to raise them with their family members as well. Geography plays a role: every married guy I know lives 3 streets over from his mother in law, I think actually it's more common for couples to be near the woman's family. I suggest this is one of those kinds of things, if you were around 100 years ago, would be kind of dead obvious to most people.

svnt 3y ago
> The kid certainly won’t know. The point of evolutionary framing is not that we have evolved to think about these things, but that they are biologically ingrained such that they incline our entire experience of living without conscious thought. > Geography plays a role I believe the article states the opposite is true: more children live closer to their paternal grandparents. I was surprised.
cafard 3y ago
Seriously? My next-door neighbor lives the other side of the US from his mother in law. We lived about one hundred miles from my mother in law, and my father lived at closest about two hundred miles from my maternal grandfather. Where do you live that all the married guys live so close to their wives' families?
jasmer 3y ago
Replying to my own comment, while this doesn't show distance, it does show behaviour: "Maternal grandmothers were significantly more inclined than paternal grandfathers and grandmothers to maintain frequent face-to-face contact, as distance between grandparent and grandchild increased. " [1] [1] https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/147470490700500412 https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/14747049070050...
skissane 3y ago
> Geography plays a role: every married guy I know lives 3 streets over from his mother in law, I think actually it's more common for couples to be near the woman's family. In terms of physical distance, our order is: (1) my father, (2) her mother, (3) her father, (4) my mother. None of them are that close – my father is about an hour away; for her mother, add about 10 minutes; for her father, add 20; my mother lives 3–4 hours away. At least they are all in the same general direction. In terms of how much we see them, the order is: (1) my father, (2) her mother (although only a little bit less than my father), (3) my mother (a lot less than either), (4) her father (we haven't seen him in > 18 months) Seeing her mother more than her father, and seeing my father more than my mother, is mainly due to the quality of relationship each of us has with the respective parent.

by jasmer 3y ago

svnt 3y ago

> The kid certainly won’t know. The point of evolutionary framing is not that we have evolved to think about these things, but that they are biologically ingrained such that they incline our entire experience of living without conscious thought. > Geography plays a role I believe the article states the opposite is true: more children live closer to their paternal grandparents. I was surprised.

cafard 3y ago

Seriously? My next-door neighbor lives the other side of the US from his mother in law. We lived about one hundred miles from my mother in law, and my father lived at closest about two hundred miles from my maternal grandfather. Where do you live that all the married guys live so close to their wives' families?

jasmer 3y ago

Replying to my own comment, while this doesn't show distance, it does show behaviour: "Maternal grandmothers were significantly more inclined than paternal grandfathers and grandmothers to maintain frequent face-to-face contact, as distance between grandparent and grandchild increased. " [1] [1] https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/147470490700500412 https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/14747049070050...

skissane 3y ago

> Geography plays a role: every married guy I know lives 3 streets over from his mother in law, I think actually it's more common for couples to be near the woman's family. In terms of physical distance, our order is: (1) my father, (2) her mother, (3) her father, (4) my mother. None of them are that close – my father is about an hour away; for her mother, add about 10 minutes; for her father, add 20; my mother lives 3–4 hours away. At least they are all in the same general direction. In terms of how much we see them, the order is: (1) my father, (2) her mother (although only a little bit less than my father), (3) my mother (a lot less than either), (4) her father (we haven't seen him in > 18 months) Seeing her mother more than her father, and seeing my father more than my mother, is mainly due to the quality of relationship each of us has with the respective parent.