Let me preface that I'm from the another side of the Atlantic Ocean, so maybe my advice is totally wrong because of my limited knowledge of USA workplace partic

Let me preface that I'm from the another side of the Atlantic Ocean, so maybe my advice is totally wrong because of my limited knowledge of USA workplace particularities. The gaps in your resume are not a good thing IMHO, could you try to explain them by saying you were on hiatus, you have family issues or even better you were learning/working on your own projects? If you don't like/stand the pressure, you could search for a less-demanding job. Maybe something in the public service? Besides that, maybe working from home could help you? Maybe that way you feel less stressed because of the commute? Good luck brother/sister and keep fighting!