If you are looking for modern wisdom, here are two much nicer alternatives: Philip Galanes' Social Q's and Kwame Anthony Appiah's The Ethicist, both columns in

If you are looking for modern wisdom, here are two much nicer alternatives: Philip Galanes' Social Q's and Kwame Anthony Appiah's The Ethicist, both columns in the NYTimes. They are the classy version of Reddit's Am I The Asshole?, more or less. Like others here, the content in "One Day You'll Find Yourself" rubs me the wrong way, though it's hard to put my finger on why. I think because it involves something of a bait-and-switch, mixing straightforward sensible advice with the idiosyncratic opinions of an old fart in order to make the latter seem respectable. For example, the remark that vegetarians are often too opinionated and should shut up is a typical overreaction by people who feel "seen" in the company of vegetarians or vegans even when nobody's saying anything bad about anyone else's choices -- people also get antsy when they're having a beer while talking to someone who doesn't drink, same deal, nobody's judging you but you feel judged -- which is given legitimacy by putting it next to advice to offer your seat to pregnant women and the elderly. https://www.nytimes.com/column/social-qs https://www.nytimes.com/column/social-qs https://www.nytimes.com/column/the-ethicist https://www.nytimes.com/column/the-ethicist https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/