Well, here's something in it I like: > Good manners is the art of making people comfortable. Whoever makes the fewest people uncomfortable has the best manners

Well, here's something in it I like: > Good manners is the art of making people comfortable. Whoever makes the fewest people uncomfortable has the best manners. ―Jonathan Swift Yes, there are places where you can't be yourself without making people uncomfortable. That's not fair, that's not pleasant, and that's not good for you or for them, but it remains true. Yes, there are times when having good manners isn't a useful goal, and when it is morally necessary to make certain people uncomfortable. That does not negate Swift's statement above. Next up: > One day you’ll find yourself approaching a revolving door. Note that starting a revolving door often requires some leverage, so if it’s not already moving, it’s one of the few entrances at which it’s polite to enter before a woman. OK, this is weird old-fashioned stuff moderns think is either incomprehensible or offensive. Which is a good thing to realize: Some people have etiquette you either don't understand or find rude. Maybe you'll think better of it if you do understand it, maybe you'll think worse of it; regardless, it ties back to the previous statement, as considerate people change their etiquette rules if those rules make the people around them uncomfortable.