I don't mean to overstep my bounds here (and it's not any of my concern anyway), but when people are telling you that something's offensive [1], responding with

I don't mean to overstep my bounds here (and it's not any of my concern anyway), but when people are telling you that something's offensive [1], responding with an assertion that "it's not offensive at all" and an explanation of why that's so is a HUGE RED SIGN that you're ... not getting it. Whether you're right or wrong. [1] I think the word "offensive" is overused these days — I wouldn't say I was offended by your post but I did find it very distasteful.